As I sit on my balcony sipping sweet sugar-free clipper tea. I reflect on my vacation and begin planning for the upcoming college days. I really feel how important it is to sit back and enjoy these precious moments while they last. While taking another spoonful of my suji ka halwa with whipped cream, I know that from monday on I will have moments almost like these but not quite the same. The silence that is within me, the peace that I radiate and the feeling that I don’t have to worry because I won’t have to hand in a paper tomorrow or next week will not be the same as this sweet everlasting moment. I now know why people say that you should savour the moment. I always pictured it would be with people but what happens when those people aren’t there. What happens when you are alone?
You learn to savour it by yourself because as Siham said you will live with yourself for the rest of your life. Here is a step by step guide that could help you relish moments by yourself. It’s also one I learned from my 21 years of life experience.
Step 1: Find your sanctuary
Find a place where you feel save and where you can enjoy. A place that SCREAMS, yes, this is me. If you don’t have that yet try visualizing that place. If you are not such a visual person try Pinterest(they have tons of images that could make you day-dream in 3 seconds).
Step 2: Know with which feeling you are going there
You should know with which feeling you want to enjoy this special moment. The fun thing about having a sanctuary is that you don’t have to go there for one purpose only. You can go there for many reasons such as reflecting but also just staying calm and thinking about nothing. To clear your mind. If you want to listen to music do that. You can also try to set the feeling. By feeling very enthusiastic about going there already prepares you for this moment.
Step 3: Bring food!
Yes! Food is an essential part. It adds the decoration to your moments and it doesn’t have to be anything fancy or expensive.
Tip: If you prepare it special enough it will be fancy because you put your whole heart and soul into it. You did it so that you can enjoy your special moment at your sanctuary.
But be aware though. I honestly do not like eating unhealthy foods or foods that I might regret eating later on. I think it ruins the feeling after the moment because after you’ve had such a moment you wouldn’t want the feeling that would sound like this: “It was a great moment but too bad I binge that much.”
Your savouring moment is about making you feel good even after it has ended. I am not saying that you should eat super healthy food but know your limits and don’t choose food that goes to the I-feel-bad-about-myself-zone.
Step 4: Know who to bring into your sanctuary
This is a very, and I repeat, very important step. Why? When you bring someone in your sanctuary, you bring that person into your own ‘circle of trust’ (oops am I quoting Robert de Niro of meet the parents, yup I am!). If something might happen to your relationship with that person. And you might despise that person for some reason. Your feeling of your sanctuary might change. It is of course up to you if you like that change or not. If you don’t then be cautious of who you let in. Ultimately every choice/decision is a lesson whether it is good or not.
If you feel like I’ve missed a few steps, Feel free to add yours in the comment square…
Do you know what I believe in? I believe in a reason. There is always a reason things happen the way they do. How worse it may seem or be. When a situation occurs you should always ask why. Why? Because there is always a why to ask. You know, I have experienced this in my way of watching Bollywood movies. No, I am serious here and I would highly appreciate it if you’d take me serious aswell. I need you to understand me here.
Ever since I was five years old, I watch Bollywood movies. I haven’t stopped ever since, although I haven’t watched many since I came living in the Netherlands. But the few that I have watched brought great knowledge to my ever-knowledge-seeking brain. Sometimes when I am in the need of watching a Bollywood movie I watch a movie that I could’ve watched the year it released but did not do so. And I ask myself why haven’t I watched it then? And why am I watching it now? I guess the answer is that my situation was different then and it is different now. The moral, knowledge, gyaan, kennis whatever you want to call it that I received now would not have applied in the same way it would apply then. And that’s why I believe in a reason. Let me give you two examples.
1. Aarakshan (released in 2011)
I just finished watching Aarakshan. The moral, that I received from the story is that Education is Power and The biggest Power is standing up for what is right, Believing in yourself to know that what ever you think is right is the right thing to do and fight for it. If I’d watched this movie in 2011, the year it released, I would just have ignored this movie and labelled as yet another Mahaan wala movie. Now that I have watched it in 2014 and my situation is different, I get the true message this movie wants to send (which is the above). I think I needed this message as I’m in a period of my life where I think about my plans. I am a very ambitious person and want to achieve a lot. I know that Education is Power. The further you get in life and the job positions you want can be achieved with Education. But that isn’t the only thing, you will need willpower and a healthy dose of driven passion. This is my current success ingredient so far, studying + will power + a healthy dose of driven passion. This (plus these) is exactly what keeps me going at times when I’m down or feeling a bit unmotivated.
2. 3 Idiots (released in 2009)
3 Idiots is another education themed Bollywood movie.
This movie is about following your passion and studying towards your passion. I strongly believe that you should follow your passions because that is, ultimately, where your happiness lies. If you are your happiest self you are more productive, creative and enjoy an euphoric life. This movie also has a purpose which is making people aware that it is possible to follow your passions. This movie also inspires people to follow their passions with education. I watched this movie in summer 2012 and it was just the right time because I was in a period of my life where I didn’t exactly know what I wanted to study further. But I did want to study further. I always knew that I wanted to work in the media industry but I didn’t know in which field. I always loved writing, describing situations and developing this hobby but did not know which jobs were suitable for this talent/skill. By studying International Communication Management I am able to practice and polish this skill, besides writing I can also glaze other skills such as visualizing, thinking and executing worthwhile creative concepts and many more! This is a nice study with endless skills which I can apply in various ways, future jobs and possible collaborations.
Here’s a nice tip!
This week was a very busy week. I helped preparing for my cousins first birthday which was so much fun and a lot of work. We made preparations for this birthday since friday morning till a few hours before the party which was on Saturday. After doing such work I realized what a nice fine cup of tea’s worth is. After coming home from such a long, fun, tiring but very joyous day I asked my mother to put some tea for me. And she did and it was so worth it. The soreness of my feet slowly ebbed away and for a while I re-enjoyed the day from playing outside with the kids to taking pictures (It’s not something I do very often but when it happens, it’s always fun). The tea that made me chill and relax isn’t the tea I’ll review today. You can click here if you want to read about my comfort tea*.
The tea that I ‘ll be reviewing today is a tea I bought at the same day as my comfort tea in the same country. This tea is a green tea with cinnamon clove from the turkish brand Dogus.
A green tea with a very nice and natural package. The green color comes of as natural and gives a calming effect. As you can see the name of this tea is in Turkish and the translation is in a smaller font. Without understanding the language you will easily see that this is a cinnamon tea due to the illustrations on the package.
(Tip! Çay means tea in both turkish and Hindi. Whenever you spot the word Çay somewhere you’ll now know what it means ;) This package is a basic package which opens as a ‘normal’ tea package.
While drinking this tea you definitely taste the cinnamon. It almost tastes like a creamy black tea. That’s because, as the site refers, it has a soft touch to it. And also because cinnamon itself has a very creamy and spicy taste. Thats why it has multiple purposes and people use it in different dishes.
If you’ve ever read my tea reviews, you know that I adore a tea where the aroma and the taste match. This tea takes care of my senses and makes my nose very happy. Love the taste and the aroma. I would also really love incense in this aroma. Wow, would my house smell amazing! This tea is also very appealing to my eyes with this nice golden color.
Yess, if you follow Marustan’s Facebook page, you might have noticed that it is Marustan’s 1 month tea review anniversary! Yeah! To celebrate this I bought a new cup at one of my favorite stores, Xenos. This I-Love-Tea cup costs around three euros. What ya think about it?
Whenever I tell someone that I like Bollywood songs. I either get a look of disgust or people’s mind go completely blank and they just stare. After the ugly stare comes a one-worded question, Why? In my entire life I have had to answer this question a lot. Way more than when someone would ask me about my age.
I rose in love with Bollywood movies since I was 5 years old and have watched them non stop. My first movie? The famous Kuch Kuch Hota Hai directed by Karan Johar. I absolutely love this movie and actors who play in it. The actors playing in the lead role are the same as in the post iCried, which are Shah Rukh Khan and Kajol.
Almost every Bollywood movie is like a musical. By this metaphor I mean that besides acting these actors dance and sing and are their happiest or saddest self. These songs are, 98%, lip-synced by actors and sung by famous singers. If you truly want to know about a Bollywood movie’s story line you could either read about it on the internet or listen to its songs. These songs contain so much emotion and not only that, the lyrics are equally as beautiful. I swoon every time I listen to a love song or a heart-break song. I also secretly get jealous and question myself why I can’t come up with such nice lyrics. I mean come on ya.
Love songs aren’t the only ones in category Bollywood Music that I like. I also like Item Songs. Now, these are a total different type of Bollywood songs. They sing these songs (in movies) in bars, disco’s, brothels and private events when they would want to celebrate something. These songs are spicy, seductive, electrifying and it gets me dancing almost everywhere. If my body isn’t shimmying to these tunes than my eyes are. You know, sometimes you have to experience something to know what its like or to know what people are talking about. So here’s one of my favorites. *I danced before adding it*
And to this one too
This past week I have listened to quite the opposite of these songs. The top 7 songs I have listened to are:
1. Tu – Bobby Jasoos
2. Tu Mohabbat Hai – Tere Naal Love Ho Gaya
3. Suno Na Sangemarmar – Youngistan
4. Kabhi Jo Badal Barse – Jackpot
5. Laal Ishq – Ram Leela
6. Jashn E Ishqa – Gunday
7. Piya Ke bazaar – Humshakals
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Once in a while we love eating sweet delicacies, shortcakes and anything else that belongs to this coated category. Before eating we’ve probably named ten to a hundred reasons why we shouldn’t eat it. It was delicious wasn’t it? Chances were you savoured every millisecond of it. From looking at it with pried eyes to inhaling its scent before eating the very first bite. Everything was worth the taste and the feel of it on your tongue. But which feeling do you get after feasting on such a short-term-tummy-filling-oh so sweet dessert? Guilt or wait no, you try to convince yourself that it was your decision and that you should take responsibility for it. Right?
What I’d like to do, after deciding to exercise and eat healthy. I’d like to drink tea and not any tea but Goalpara tea. Goalpara tea has been in the business for 25 years. Yes, for 25 years they have been selling this little green secret box that has been helping many people for their weight loss purposes etc. Here at my house we have been drinking this tea for over 6 years. We absolutely like it and it is the first drink we grab after enjoying our dessert.
What it does…
It removes the kind of cloggy sugary taste that remains in your throat. It is definitely not THE way to lose weight but if you’d drink it everyday for a week or two you would see some results. Green tea always has had its health benefits which some of them are very visible in the everyday life. This tea is made from un-oxidized leaves and is one of the less processed types of tea (with white tea the least) and therefore has one of the most antioxidants. For more info on green tea check out this website.
Bitter if brewed longer than 1.5 minutes and please do not add sugar. Whenever I drink my tea I usually do not put any sugar in it. I liked to drink it pure and in its natural state. I think that this is the same when drinking a tea with so many benefits. And coming to think of it, why would you drink a tea with so many health benefits with sugar? I’m not saying sugar is bad but why. I can’t seem to think of a reason but if you do please voice your opinion in the comment box.
It has a regular smell and is in the least uncommon but this could be because I’m pretty used to its smell that it doesn’t smell. It certainly doesn’t smell likke herbal or fruity tea like Lady Grey. As you can see in the post above it has a slightly dark color to it which is the result of brewing it too long. If you brew it for 1.5 minute it will have its usual color which is light brown.
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Sometimes it is nice to reflect and to think about what happened the past few weeks, months and year. In year 2013 I was convinced that, that year would bring me love. Guess what? It did but not in the way you are thinking…
The year 2013 learned me how to love and appreciate myself. It thought me how proud I should be of myself for passing my HAVO as a Dutch Surinamese girl who was brought up in Suriname. It gave me the strength and courage to study further. It thought me that by accepting myself just the way I am is the best way to live because I have to live with myself my whole life. And why should I waste my time by not feeling good about myself or not appreciating myself. It’s a pity, a waste of time, and not worth thinking about.
In some way I had a lot of love for this year. I felt it in the air, way before the year started. I painted my predictions in this painting. I felt that the year 2013 was a year for new beginnings, love, inspirations, health, happiness, prosperity and different deeper feelings.
Why come with this is now and not earlier?
You should always reflect on how you feel or work. It is important because you’ll get an insight on the things you did right and the things you can improve. By reflecting on yourself you can constantly change the way you view yourself, your situation or others. You can see what changed and what the difference is between last year and this year. By reflecting I see how last year changed me and when my new beginning started.
In this year I made yet another painting. I was so convinced that this year was a year for, all the above of course and, love. If you would manipulate the numbers of 2013 a bit you would get the word love.
A nice way to break the ice is to find a common/shared ground. When trying to find something you have in common with a person, you start by asking questions to generate a conversation. The most frequent question asked is: “Which artists do you listen to? Who are your favorite singers?”
Every time someone asks me these type of questions, I blame Spotify for not being able to answer. Why?
Spotify is an amazing app and music library which I use daily, weekly and monthly. You have so many options in different languages. Even Surinamese songs are on Spotify. You can create playlists and listen to them on and offline. What you can also do is listen to Spotify’s own playlist. This is why I can’t answer the questions above properly. I listen to almost all Spotify’s playlists. You can choose from different moods you are into to different genres you’d like to listen at the moment. Whenever I’m in a happy mood, I just click browse –> genres and moods –> sub genres–> Happy. It’s that easy. Whenever I like to focus on my homework or focus while studying I like to listen to that type of music. And there are like more than 10 playlists with different artists in each of them.
Sometimes when people ask me what type of music I listen to, I’ll say that I like almost everything.
It gets awkward and I get the: “How can you like almost everything? You must have some you can name.” stare. Honestly, when this situation occurs I sometimes choose to ignore the stare. But when it gets too obvious and I have to elaborate my answer. I reach for my iPhone (which is usually in my hand), go to my Spotify app(which is a bit slower with 3G) and scroll through my playlists and songs that I’ve listened to in the past week. And not only does this process take a lot of time, I list every singer! This can add up to more than 20 singers.
The thing is, I love music and I listen to all types of music. Here are my top 7 of the past week.
1. Magic by Coldplay
2. A Sky Full Of Stars by Coldplay
3. Skinny Dipping by The Him
4. Wiggle (feat. Snoop Dogg) by Jason Derulo
5. Summer by Calvin Harris
6. Break Free by Ariana Grande
7. Stolen Dance by Milky Chance
What do you like to listen to?